I think we need a break?

We have been having alot of serious relatinship problems,and once he found out I had the affair he found a counselor and did a 360,but it feels like an act of desperation.He said he just never took me serious when I said we needed help.This morning when I woke up he handed me a cup of coffee and we layed there for a minute,it almost felt like one of those moments were time almost stops and everything freezes.I felt a tiny bit of love for him in the first time in our three year relationship.Then the feeling was gone and time sped back up.He isnt himself at all.It has only been a few days since he found out.I wanna believe that this is truly the new him and God will make us ment for each other,but that idea has fairy tale written all over it and those things just don't happen.One minute I think I wanna stay and work it out,then i start thinking about how we got to this point and then i think i'd rather be alone right know and eventually start over with somebody new.He'll tell you straight out we've never loved each other,just the idea of a married life.I dont think were actually what each other really need.But ALL of the family and friends say to stay together,that we will make it cause we're a great couple,even my bestfriends tell me this.They dont know all of it though and I don't feel they all need to know everything.I believe we both need a break from each other because we're not thinking clearly.For example,on the day I admitted my affair we'd decided to do counseling,file bankruptcy,rent or sell the house and move far out of town like 465 miles away to Denver.Thats to much for one month much less not even a day.We got married because we got pregnet,decided it in one day and only new each other three weeks or so.That was to big a decision for one day.Is it wrong that I want to slow down?It's like he almost wants me to make my mind up now and even though he knows exactly how I feel about everything(Ive been telling him)he seems to think that no matter what it will work out.It's just to big a desision to make so fast especialy when there's two little boys involved,we NEVER NOT ONCE considered how these desisons would affect them.Its because were young,desperate and nieve.Both only 21.So,I think it would be the wisest to separate for a while to get our heads on straight but still attend counseling together.What do ya'll think,good idea?Or should we both just take off in the opposite direction and run for the hills?I see myself making more big serious mistakes if I dont put my foot down this time.I get that he's the head of the house hold but there's a line I think he's crossing when it comes to not thinking it through theraly.He's said he did but when you read this post you can tell nither of us truly have.